Grief, loss and cultivating a positive outlook after the death of a loved one

The loss of a loved one creates a new kind of 'normal' and introduces us to a kind of suffering that we have never known. Join me as I speak with special guest Brendan Murray as he opens up about his experiences with death and the loss of his parents. For anyone dealing with the loss of a loved one, Brendan shares some techniques to cope with grief and loss to help you get back to life.

What to expect from the episode:

  • Feelings and vulnerability in grief
  • How does losing someone you love affect you?
  • Describing the pain of losing someone
  • Cultivating a positive outlook after losing a loved one
  • Why is it hard to accept someone's death?
  • Do you ever recover from losing a loved one?
  • The power of choosing positive emotion
  • How to train your brain to focus on what you can control
  • Techniques and goals for growth


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[02:37] What Heidi noticed about Brendan when his parents passed away

[05:04] How Brendan copes with grief and loss

[08:12] Is it true that “everything happens for a reason”?

[11:14] How do you reconcile grief?

[12:47] An analogy for explaining death

[15:10] Can you feel the presence of a loved one who passed away?

[19:19] You get to choose how you feel

[21:42] The importance of recognizing your emotions

[25:19] Describing the feeling of losing someone you love for the first time

[27:08] Does dealing with death get easier?

[33:57] Overcoming regret and self-blame

[37:25] The importance of focusing on what you can control

[45:05] “When you stop growing you start dying”

[48:13] Ninety seconds is all it takes to identify an emotion

[49:41] Build momentum to create a force for good in your life

[51:17] Byron Katie's Four Questions

[55:20] Heidi's first Tony Robbins experience

[1:01:16] Tony Robbins’ work and its impact on Brendan and Heidi

[1:05:41] “Knowledge isn't power, execution is where the power lies”

[1:07:19] Opportunity to demonstrate change


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