Defiant. Challenging. Irritating. Tricky. These are the common traits of a 'SPICY' child.
Family members and teachers don't seem to 'get' them.
They're yelled at more than others because they're always doing what they're not supposed to do.
But they're not bad kids... they're just misunderstood.
The good news? Parents can learn how to work -with- SPICY kids instead of -against- them... and it's usually a simple fix!
Join Clinical Psychotherapist Heidi Rogers in this workshop and unlock the strategies you need to help your SPICY child thrive, and create a calmer home.
What You'll Learn...
What To Do When Nothing Else Works
How to help a child where 'the usual' strategies don't work and they end up screaming 'stop it!' or 'leave me alone!'
Managing Their Volatile Behavior
How to support a child who gets angry or upset quickly and finds it hard to calm down.
Proactive Behavior Management
Strategies for preventing, navigating and reducing meltdowns.
Coping With YOUR Stress
The best ways you can support YOURSELF in staying calm.
Meeting Your Child's Needs
The #1 thing these kids need above all else, and how you can give it to them.
Learn Their Mindset
What's it like internally for the kid who is always getting in trouble? What thought patterns motivate their behavior?
Questions Answered In SPICY Part 2 (Q&A Replay)
Q1: What can you do when you need a quick break but your spicy child clings to you and won't let you go? I find this really hard as I've already hit my limit by then and he's grabbing on to me and I feel very trapped and I can't stay calm.
Q2: I empathized with him and agreed and said, "I'm finding it really hard at times too." What else could I say?
Q3: For teenagers, if you know their choices are poor, what should you do so it doesn't escalate into a standoff?
Q4: I was diagnosed with ADHD a few weeks ago but I find staying calm so hard. I fully understand the importance of it and love everything you're saying. Any tips for ND parents or just keep trying?
Q5: Is there a higher incidence of spicy in addiction?
Q6: I'm running out of empathy for my spicy. I know it's not his fault but the whole family revolves around him. Every outing ends in the spicy market. He recently ruined his own birthday because he was so out of control. Right from the morning, we couldn't take him out. Is there a way to get him to understand that he is important but so are his siblings' needs?
Q7: I tell her that she's a good kid having a hard time but she tells me to stop saying that. What should I do? I know she can't help behaving like that but those behaviours are not okay. How do I implement some sort of accountability for her?
Q8: They can't complete basic routines or tasks like brushing teeth, taking a shower. Offering choices is not helpful.
Q9: We have no ability to make him do anything. If he says, "I'm not going to school," we either negotiate or explain for hours and generally, he gets his own way. It's so distressing as he's extremely oppositional and wants to control everything.
I'm concerned if he misses too much school. What should I do when he says he's not going to school either because he says he's sick which is not the case. He's screen-obsessed. Do we let him have his own way?
Q10: They can get violent. It happens very quickly. I told them to stop fighting.
Q11: How can I tell if her behaviour comes from being spicy or she has narcissistic traits?
Q12: Can our spicy kids be considered neuro-typical? Will these kids benefit from further support outside of home such as with an OT or psychologist?
About Heidi Rogers
Heidi is a psychotherapist, counsellor and speaker with 20 years experience in mental health, with a focus on trauma therapy.
Heidi has worked in the US and Australia delivering therapeutic services to clients across the age and cultural spectrum.
She works in private practice in Melbourne, delivering presentations, online courses and webinars to equip parents, individuals and schools with tools to implement the change they desire.
Heidi was born and raised in Los Angeles. She now lives in Australia with her husband and two daughters.
Follow Heidi on Instagram @heidirogers_