Controlling Your Parenting TriggersJan 15, 2022
This is what's so amazing about our kids. This is why I always call kids little yodas, because they're our greatest teacher, because they will often highlight for you where your unmet needs are from your own childhood, where your unresolved shit is from childhood, all of your baggage. Your kids are just like, here's a mirror, hi, and just gonna hold that up for you and show you all the stuff that you got to work on. And all this stuff that hurts and all the stuff that's not healed. So when your child is being mean or hurtful, it's probably going to trigger stuff in you. Not all of us, some of us, but then the angry kid might trigger this parent doesn't trigger that parent, right? Because we all have different stuff from our past. So I would be getting curious about what is it that is coming up in me when my child says or does the thing and then what do I do with my emotions? How do I regulate myself? What work have I done on unpacking my childhood wounds, my old wounds. That's something we got to look at and your kids are great at making us look at all of that stuff.
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